Inner Relationship Focusing is an approach that can be used both within and outside of psychotherapy, which teaches us how to slow down to listen to what we need, both moment to moment and big picture. Slowing down to feel the feelings that we often run from, we learn that we are strong enough to handle powerful emotions. We also learn that when we give our feelings the attention they need, we create room for them to communicate and transform, rather than snowball or stagnate.
Inner Relationship Focusing provides tools for becoming kind to ourselves, for making our inner relationship, our relationship with ourselves, the kind of relationship we have always wanted. It helps us move toward a healing relationship with even the most hurt parts of ourselves that we try to hide away deep inside. When we take time to get to know these parts without judging them, we give them the fresh air they need to evolve.
I incorporate aspects of Inner Relationship Focusing into much of my work, and teach interested clients how to use these tools themselves. Focusing and Expressive Arts Therapy are highly effective in combination as well.
Sometimes words don't feel powerful enough, or they keep you in your head. The arts are particularly useful for accessing and exploring emotions that language can't quite capture, and for feelings and experiences you've already put into words a million times without experiencing relief.
Making images by drawing, collaging, painting, or using movement, sound, writing, or music can all be entry points to discovering the creative energy that can emerge from, express, and transform suffering.
No skill is required, and there is no right or wrong way to express yourself. Expressive Arts Therapy pairs very well with Inner Relationship Focusing, both optional aspects of our work together, based on your level of interest.
Filial Therapy is a play-based form of family psychotherapy for children ages 3-10. It provides tools to strengthen your family's relationships and communication, address challenging situations and behaviors, and maximize joyful interactions.
I often use Filial Therapy with parents seeking to support their child's attachment and healthy social-emotional development, and parents wanting assistance with their approach to discipline, sibling rivalry, and oppositional behaviors. Together, through the context of play, we identify and practice ways to direct family interactions toward effective, calm limit setting; deeper listening and trust; and renewed enjoyment of each other.
I will teach you how to eventually continue therapeutic play sessions at home, on your own. Filial Therapy empowers you, the parent, to be the primary therapeutic agent in your child's life.